Girl meet boy last year. Everything was sweet and nice until this year. Girl felt a shift in boy's affection towards her but still went on. Not able to take it any longer, girl had a talk with boy. Boy told girl he no longer love her and decided to go separate ways. Girl was heartbroken.
Story 2
Girl and boy, got married about 10 years ago. Blessed with 2 beautiful children. Life was going on great until girl heard from boy's colleague that boy recently got married with another girl complete with ceremony and a banquet dinner. Girl couldn't believe she have been oblivious to all of it. And the best part is, the other girl was girl's best friend. Girl was heartbroken. She left with her two kids.
Story 3
Girl and boy, met 13 years ago in college. After much courting, they decided to be an item. Boy's career took off successfully 3 years later. 5 years ago, they decided to legalise their union. All were bed of roses until 4 months ago. Boy told girl he is leaving her for another and a day later, he moved out with all his stuff. As he was leaving, he told girl that he will stop all payment to the house and that she should start paying it from now on (bear in mind money is not an issue for boy). Girl was in shock. All the sudden mean attitude from boy. Girl definately didn't see that coming.
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All the above three stories are real life stories of friends I met this past one month. It is very disheartening to hear stories like that. Just last night, as I was having dinner with my 'boy' at a restaurant nearby, boy pointed out to me so and so's sister who is a divorcee, was having dinner with her two children. As I was eating quietly, I just felt sorry for the children.
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I came from a divorced family background too. Whenever someone asked me how do I feel about it, I will reply nochantly "I am ok... no any different". That is because I've never knew there is a different, that's why I dont feel any losses. But for those poor kids, they must have missed their daddi/mommi. Before their little brain could comprehend the meaning of divorce, to understand why their daddi/mommi can't live together like they used to, to rationalise why they have to spend the weekends with their daddi/mommi now, they would have to start conditioning their little brain to accept a new daddi/new mommi or a new uncle/new aunty.
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My 'boy' said, many a times, not all though, he observed among our friends or friends' friend that, it is marriages with children that usually don't last or have problems. On the other hand, couples that are not bless with children, sticked together thru thick and thin. He has a point there. I noticed that too. Maybe most boys and girls didn't expect the responsibilies that come along as a package with the bundle of joy. Boy blame girl. Girl blame boy. As time goes, they forgot how to love or what love is.
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Nothing is forever. Treasure now, the moment.
4 comments:
It's beautiful, your sharing. TQ!
It's really sad and I know what you mean and your boy has a point about couples who are childless who seem to stick together comparatively to couples with children.
I guess the couples with children stop making the effort to make the marriage work whilst trying to juggle parenthood.....they need to take time as well to work on their marriage before it starts going stale....
When it comes to marriages, there are really no guarantees, it takes two to tango so if one party decides to throw in the towel, that's it. So you are right, we should treasure now, the moment.
Alina & Mun:
Yeah, a relationship need to be taken care of like a plant. Water it every few days, fertilize it every now and then, sing to it, talk to it, breathe to it..... and hope one party dont decides to throw in the towel :)
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