Kaypochi, 3ku 6po, Busybodies

I have a strong urge to blog about this. Please note that this is STRICTLY NOT DIRECTED to my friends & my mom. Just general unimportant and unrelated people that pisses me off. I just wanna vent it all out. :p

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1) When I was single, I hate people kept asking me when am I getting married. And if I say soon, they will continue to give their smart ass advice (which I never asked) that I shall not wait too long.

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2) I hate people asking me if I am pregnant cause that questions makes me feel fat even though I know they meant 'when do you plan to get pregnant?'.

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3) I hate people asking me to fast fast get pregnant. Hello??? Who is bearing the child? Who is taking care of he/she? Who is generating income to nurture he/she? We do. So we will 'do' as and when we feel like it...

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4) Then for those that already have a child, the question would be, when is the 2nd one coming along? Or the 3rd one?

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The reason to item (1) ~ (4) is, people constantly felt it is their responsibility to pester people like us into the different stages of life just because that's what they went through and that they felt that we should be doing the same too at our age. The thing is, after a thorough thought about it, my findings tell me that since most of them that asked are married, already have several children usually, some even have grandchildren, based on the natural course of order of life, the next appropriate polite question to ask would be 'when are you dying'? Yes? No?

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5) I hate people that complains a lot but never provide a solution. And when you suggest a solution, they will complain the solution also. There is just no solution to their complains. I think they don't even know what they want. It's very tiring. - For example, if you are feeling very warm, don't keep complaining it is warm. Find a solution to cool yourself. Complaining alone doesn't make you feel cool. Cause people around you may be too busy to switch on the fan or aircond for you. Complain and find a solution to your own issue.

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6) I hate kaypochi 3ku 6po (busybody relatives) who got nothing else better to do than constantly badgering my poor mom on what my husband send her for CNY - the thing, what does that gotta do with her?

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7) I hate kaypochi 3ku 6po who again got nothing else better to do but constantly asked my PP (when she was alive) on how much I give my mom monthly - again, does it concern her at all?

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8) I hate people that stand around complaining of an unfortunate situation which has already passed, which we can't do anything to change the fact cause we can't go back to the past - this is because, when PP passed away, we have to wait for my uncle to come home from KL to pick a casket for her. So, while waiting, this relative keep complaining exasperatingly to my mom that we should have pick her casket weeks ago and not wait till the last minute. Luckily I was too busy, or I would have said "So, you must have already picked yours?"

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You see, people always mistaken me as being ill-mannered and rude. The fact is, I am just giving back to them their own medicine. The thing is, isn't it rude to ask how much one earned? How much one give? Why one don't do this? Why didn't do that? Or that I have no patience nor any tactfulness. Why should I when the person who asked never used the brain decorated their skull in the first place? And whether I want to get pregnant, or 2nd or 3rd child, is it not rude when they asked? Think about it, they are asking me about my sex life. What does that gotta do with them? Are they gonna be there when I wake up 4 times a night to feed a wailing baby?

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I believe many of you faced the same thing as I do. Just that many a time, you just want to be polite and let it go. I do that too. But really, how do you really really seriously feel about it? Anyway, I am just venting out my two cents. Hopefully, those 3ku 6po will read this. But then again, they won't la... cause they got no time. All their time is spent on busybody-ing on other people's business. Can't blame them also. Cause they really got nothing else better to do.

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Point is:

1) If you have no contribution, just shut up

2) If you have no solution and no intend to solve a problem, don't complain

3) If you don't intend to die yet, please bear in mind that we might also don't intend to get married yet or have baby yet or have 2nd or 3rd child yet.

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So, that's all lor.. I am just stating my point and I don't mean to be rude. I am just being honest... hehehe...:) See, I provide a solution to my complain. You get what I meant???

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p/s: my friend Josephine laughed till tearing when I vent my frustrations at her......lols